Pet's Birthday

This past weekend was pet's birthday.  I have a rule where during your birthday, you get to make all the decisions.  That didn't make sense to him, really, but we fixed that right up by negotiating what he wanted to do before hand.  The day was pretty quiet, but our kinky converts came over for dinner and brought their rope, so, of course, we had to pull out the toybox.

I got pet a J-hook, and he kept it in for about 2 hours while we played.  I had so much fun tying with it! It's a great base for harnesses.

Then, we had the celebratory birthday spankings.  26 each from me and each of the kinky converts, then 26 more from me for good measure.  pet was in charge of counting the spanks... and of course, he was bratty and didn't count spanks that he didn't approve of.  (Thus the extra 26 from me.)

I call our friends "the kinky converts" because they are two vanilla friends that we introduced to kink.  They're a married couple, and KCF (kinky convert female) is bi.  And I think she's hot.

So, of course, between the spankings and the beatings KCF and I get pretty hot, and started to make out.  Pet whined for attention but I shoved him away with my foot so I could enjoy my friend.  It was fun to lick KCM's dick and spit the taste of it into pet's face. 

"Do remember this, slut? This is an erection.  You haven't had one for a month, so I just want to make sure you knew..."

I got to do all sorts of fun things.  I got to sit on pet's face while making out with KCF while her husband fucked her.  I got to sit on my pet's caged cock, put my feet in his face, and watch KCM cum all over his wife.

Then, after, I got to lie in bed with the kinky converts cuddle and make out while pet slept in his sleeping bag, on the floor, listening to us and moaning softly.

He said he had a good time, but I think I had a better one. :)

Some Nice GIFs for You

I want to load these onto Tumblr but I can't because they're too big and I'm too lazy and I'm gunna go take a shower. I have a ridiculous appreciation for the people that make my fap fodder now! Maybe sometime later I'll download GIMP and crop them/make them less than 1 MB.  Or, you know, if anyone wants to do that for me and email me the files so I can post them... I'll be forever indebted to you.

 

 

It was fun incorporating my phone.  At one point I was sucking on the underside of his cage, then stopped and said "Ooooh, wait, let me take a selfie!"  Took a selfie, and sent it to one of the hot guys I've been flirting with on kik.  pet groaned and I could see the precum start to come out of my cock.  I think that was my favorite part of the scene. I need to remember to ask pet how he liked that.

Reasons for Blogging

So, I started this blog for a few reasons.

1.) To set up a space where I can organize my thoughts and musings, especially my thoughts on resources that I find online.  I wanted something separate from my FL writings, because I want a place where I can express myself but not worry about everyone I know seeing it and commenting.
2.) To set up a diary of play, what went wrong, what went well, what I learned, etc. 
3.) To chronicle my adventures in kink.

These 3 areas definitely intersect, but I don't care.  (Nyah nyah boo boo!)

Sad to say, I've made some progress in all three of these areas - learning, playing, and adventuring.  I have a lot of ideas for posts but I need to take the time to write them out in a presentable manner.

Tumble away!

I have a Tumblr now.  Follow me and I'll follow you back (if I like what you post, of course)

http://mistressmagpie.tumblr.com/

Of course, those will probably be pictures that aren't mine.  Anything original, I'll upload and host here.

Little Domme

My pet and I have an interesting relationship.  He's submissive to the core, but a lot of times I find that he's the one taking care of me - beyond the, "Slave, do my laundry" domme-sub relationship.  If I've had a bad day, he's there to cuddle.  If I'm bouncing off the wall about something, he reminds me to reel it in and bring it back down to earth.

I think the best way to describe our relationship is that he's like Nana from Peter Pan - caring but, in the end, the dog.

Finding a Play Partner - Red Flags

Photo from davafoxx

So, I've been looking for a play partner on OkCupid and that's been ridiculously hilarious and kind of frustrating.  Anyway, I happened to see this post on FetLife and I thought I'd reproduce the list, so I could come back to it and maybe add to it.  It was compiled by M. Alan from other lists out there.  I took out the ones that seemed like "you might be in an abusive relationship if..." - because that's a whole 'nother can of worms.


BDSM Community:
• They have no BDSM references or friends you can talk to.
• They criticize the BDSM community and refuse to participate, especially if they never were part of it.
• They overemphasize the amount of experience that they have.
• They get upset with you about wanting to make a safe call on a first meeting

General Conversation:
• They find ways to put blame on others for things going wrong.
• They have bad relationships with most or all of their family members.
• They have nothing nice to say about previous partners
• They lose control of their emotions in arguments and regress to yelling, name-calling and blame.


• They will only interact with you in a kinky or sexual manner as if role- playing.
• They use any form of neging.

Negotiations:
• They pressure you into doing things you do not want to do.
• They do not respect your limits, negotiations or contracts.
• They try to intimidate you.
• They expect complete submission from you, a stranger.
• On the opposite end, they say they will do anything that you, a stranger, want.
• They ignore or refuse the use of safe words.  Sorry, I'm not going to play with someone that refuses to use safe words. 

Relationship:
• They swear undying love before even meeting you.
• They instantly want to put you "Under Protection" or "In Training" or some other status.

And, of course, the biggest red flags...

Getting upset when you call them out on any of these things.

Because we all make mistakes.  When someone tells me they want to meet me for a scene first thing, or tells me they'll "Let me do anything to them," I tell them I won't do that and I think that's unsafe.  If they flip out... I just block them and move onto one of the other idiots that's messaging me asking "will u make me ur play thing??"

Jk.  I don't respond to those either.

Well, Hi!

 

Here I am. I'm Magpie and I am a novice domme. I consider myself novice because I'm young and always learning new stuff.  I'm also not a pro-domme, but "amateur" just doesn't fit my experience.

I've been "in the lifestyle" since 2012.  My boyfriend and pet introduced me to BDSM after we had been together for a while.  We did light stuff like face sitting, nipple play, and general verbal abuse.  Then, we had a long distance relationship and our kink became our main way to connect sexually. After we moved in together things got hotter and hotter - until eventually we made the decision that this was something that we wanted to learn more about and improve on, and we started going to munches and events in the greater Boston area.

Kink is a huge hobby for me, and so is blogging, so I decided to start this blog to chronicle my kinky journey.  I'm still discovering my style of dominance.  I want to learn so much, and maybe as I'm learning I can pass that along to others.  Or at least entertain someone.

Non-kinky things like I like to do include knitting, Pathfinder RPG, writing (poetry and short stories), and general crafty crap.  I'm a huge nerd, and I love intellectual discussions, especially those about philosophy and religion - when you know what you're talking about.  Work is a huge part of my life - but I'm probably not going to get into that a lot here.